Sonia Scherzer (Sunny as she was called by everyone, Grandma
to me, and Grandma Beady as she was aptly named by Daniel (and later Sarah) -
for her love of beaded necklaces) was a wonderful grandmother.
I can only speak for the last 31 years of her 88-year life,
but I feel so lucky to have gotten to know her so well. I think all would agree that Grandma was a
very opinionated, strong willed person who could be very demanding at times,
but she was also an incredibly honest, loving, and kindhearted person. She could, and would, talk to anyone and
everyone, and random strangers always felt comfortable telling her
everything. I remember several times
when I met her in NY City after she had taken the bus in from Queens and she
would tell me the life story of the person who had sat next to her on the bus
ride in. Inevitably they would have
shared their problems with her and she would have provided suggestions to
them. She would go on elder hostel trips
and easily make new friends. On our trip
to Israel together, when I was 13, I remember how easily she became good
friends with the other grandparents.
Though she was at times sad that she was one of the few single
grandparents on the trip, she never let that stop her. For most of her life she had a very active
social life of bridge games, dinners out, movie nights and scrabble. Social work was definitely her calling, and
though she was officially retired in my lifetime, she continued to provide
“counseling” and advice to her friends and also to random strangers.
She was an avid reader and loved to recommend books for me
to read and get recommendations from me, we shared a love of Jodi Picoult books.
She was a big tennis fan as well and could watch the tennis channel for
hours on end, though at the end of her life she was not always sure who was playing, it didn't matter to her. I will always have fond memories of playing
tennis with her in Florida and upstate NY.
Even though I was never particularly good at tennis, she never gave up on
me and was happy to play and give pointers.
She had a supreme patience for board games and was happy playing hours
upon hours of Monopoly or other such games with her grandchildren.
Over the last 10 years she was so lucky to be expertly carried for by Maxine, and in the last 2 years Charlene and Dimples as well. Though she was certainly not an easy patient, and not always the best at showing her gratitude, she did appreciate the loving care she received from them and I know she was very thankful that their care (and the devotion of her sons to her wishes) enabled her to stay in her home rather than having to be in the hospital – a place she hated more than any other! The devotion of her sons to caring, visiting (even coordinating schedules to make sure that someone was there at least once a week – and usually more frequently), and making sure that her wishes were carried out was a true tribute to her and a great example for me and the rest of her grandchildren.
At Aaron's college graduation |
She will continue to live on in all of our memories and
actions. For me she will be ever present
in my love for knitting, my inability to have dry eyes at special occasions
(happy or sad), my strong-willed sprit, my love for travel, and my pride in and
commitment to my family. Grandma you
will be missed, but most definitely not forgotten. We all love you.